Natural beauty and love

I have always been a strong believer of natural beauty.

 Last night, I had this awkward conversation about beauty and make up with a distant relative. I was told that I need to put a little make up on or the least I could do is fix my eyebrows. Because being ATTRACTIVE, attracts MEN. She also told me that if I don't do this, I won't be courted or even married.

Oh, please.

I have a friend who used to be more plump than I am. She does not even wear make up. But she had men lining up. She even had this one guy go crazy over her. See what I mean?

Another friend of mine, who eats more than an average person does but never gets fat. She also does not wear make up. She's neither sexy nor slim. But she has a boyfriend who loves her oh so much.

Bottomline? It's not the appearance that attracts love.

 However, I agree with her with men like attractive. Let's face it. Even ladies are guilty with this. But what I was against of was putting an effort to be seen as attractive. The questions going about in my mind on that moment was:

 1. Why would I be doing this for men and not for myself?
2. I feel fine with my eyebrows. I see them everyday in the mirror and I strongly believe that I look great with them. So why should I trim them?
3. Is something wrong with me and my preference or is there something twisted in how this society see beauty?
4. Can't I just look for men who's going to be attracted on how I think and speak and not on how they physically look at me?
5. Is it impossible for love to come for just being unattractive?

I feel good without make up on. I find myself attractive. I don't care if others don't. What I feel about myself is much more important than how others view me.

 I respect you with make up on. So, can you please respect that I don't have time to put make up on because I prioritize other things over my physical appearance?

Besides, I wanted to be seen as intellectually attractive and not physically attractive. I don't need men lining up and courting me. I just need one that would respect me for what I am. Who will listen to what I have to say. Who will see pass my physical appearance and appreciate my intellectual beauty.

 Yes, it maybe is true that no one is courting me now. But who cares? If I can't find a man who will see pass my physical appearance then so be it. The important thing is I love myself above all else.

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